Goggles and Black holes.

So finally, after I had made the brave decision of quitting the job I have been working for a year now, I was at work today, like any other day, when it hit me that this phase of my life is coming to an end. It was pretty much a matter-of-fact thing till that point, like daily facebook stalking and coffee, till I started looking around, at the people around me, at my monitor, at the sound of, well i don't know what it is, just some perfectly embedded roar that is a part of my life now,.  A very meek "Oh my!" feeling washed over my matter-of-factedness. I don't consider myself sentimental, I am sure a lot of us don't. We move, move on, move away, stuff happen, yada yada, but I am sure most of us have looked around, like I did today and thought "Oh my". Well, if you haven't, here is why you should.
              In every phase of life there were few people, few things that defined that experience for you. And when you leave that behind, there is a huge you shaped hole in that experience, and a lot of people and things shaped holes in you. Both gets filled, in no time, but mostly, we miss the experience than the experience misses us. This generally starts when a sibling leaves home, or when you are the sibling who is leaving home. There is a big brother shaped hole in your life, one big black hole, inside which watching TV isn't fun anymore, because you can finally, watch whatever you want.You get over it, grow up and laugh about the things you did with the brother shaped hole. Fortunately or unfortunately, these big black holes get filled way too soon for most of us, and any amount of residue ceases to exist.A bit of it stays back on our Facebook news feeds, where we find out that our once best friend got married, had kids, or visited Paris. Social networking is a constant reminder of our past lives. Of college friends who should never meet our moms, of friends who should never meet our boyfriends, of old bosses who should never meet our new bosses. If you take a look at your friends list, and try to remember one experience you had with every one of them, one piece of the palpable reality pie both of you shared, you will feel each of them casting a he or she shaped black hole in you. Each of them telling you what you were, where you were. OH SHIT! :D
           Doesnt this make your life a perfect Yearbook?  Fascinates me. We literally travel from places and people to other places and people.You could have been a complete jackass in all of those. Not many people would have a you shaped hole in their lives, some might have a "Shoot at sight" next to the you shaped hole and some of them, well, there will be at least one other jackass you decided to be friends with. Remember the school BFF shaped hole, which was filled up by a college BFF shaped hole, which in turn was completely occupied by a job, lack of sleep, needy partner and controlling parents? The school you would have never thought that would happen. If she did, she would have looked around a bit more, may be.
           My friend called my "looking around" the "graduation goggles". Like how you miss someone the day you breakup with them, or miss college on graduation day, because you know it is going to end. That is completely different. You are free to do that the day you decide to stop doing what you are doing, like how I am probably going to, on my last day at work, but my "black holes theory" is about making sure you capture enough moments.   This post is not me telling you that  you need to keep in touch with your friends. Impossible is the word. I barely talk to one or two people i spent a decade of my school life with. This post just wants you to look around, maybe everyday, look at the faces around you. Look at who made you laugh today, those people who make up a huge part of your life today, so that when you wake up tomorrow and see "them shaped holes" in you, you won't be as disappointed as you could be. Because we all miss where we have been. We miss college, we miss the last company we worked in, We miss our exes.We complain, that is sort of a coping mechanism. Helps us sleep at night. But If you tell me "No man! it sucked so bad! I am so glad I am out of there" (I have said this myself, trust me, and I realised I was wrong) i am just going to ask you to look for a few black holes in you. Iam sure you will find lots that never got replaced!!

 Now,  Just to inspire you all to look around. Also because i found this hilarious :P